When He’s Just Not That IntoYou

Written For:  Knoji

Okay. So you met this really wonderful guy. He’d call you at unexpected moments just to ask how you are, or send you flowers every other day. Conversation is free-flowing and he makes you laugh. You talk about him to anybody who’d care enough to listen. Needless to say, you are so into him. But the million dollar question remains: Is he that into you too?

At the very start of the relationship, at the time when they are getting close to a woman, men love to think. They go through a period when they aren’t sure what they feel towards you. They ask themselves: “Do I really like this girl?”; “Am I that into her?”.

During this crucial moment of reflection, men withdraw and they retreat to their “caves” to do some serious thinking. He will become so focused on the task at hand that he temporarily loses awareness of everything else. Anything and everything, including you, may fade into the background. He may become distant, unresponsive and forgetful.

A woman’s instant reaction is panic. We stay awake at night trying to figure out what we did wrong. We mistakenly assume that he doesn’t care about us anymore. So we go out of our way to win him back by going the extra mile. We call him when he doesn’t call. We send him emails saying we want to talk about the relationship. We try too hard to get things back to normal.

Here’s the catch: while you try too hard to pull him back, you are in fact pushing him away. He starts thinking of you as a stalker.

So what to do? Give him time. Let him be. Let him withdraw. And if he doesn’t come back, it’s time to find the answer to that million dollar question: Is he that into you?

Women are blessed with intuition. We have our instincts as a gift. We know when a guy is just not into us. The problem lies in acceptance. We vehemently refuse to believe it. We take comfort in denial. We would rather believe that he is not ready to commit, he has issues, or he is just really busy. But the thing is, when he is not into you, he just isn’t. And no amount of willing, wishing or nagging will ever be enough to make him stay if he wants out.

It won’t be easy. But it all goes down to self-respect. Ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who said he’d call and then didn’t. Ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who disappears on you. Then go ask yourself why is it okay with you.

We all deserve somebody better. If he makes you feel bad, that’s bad.

How To Get Rid Of Mouth Ulcers

Written For:  HealthGuideInfo

Mouth ulcers can cause sufferers severe pain. Because of their location, they are often subject to infections which can cause further complications and pain. Learning how to get rid of mouth ulcers is critical to keep complications from happening in the first place.

• Mouth ulcers, also referred to as apthous or oral ulcers, are painful, defined open lesions or sores located inside the mouth. Women and young adults are reportedly more prone to suffer from this condition.

  The usual symptoms include open sores and mouth pain, but the location of sores and other distinctive appearances depend on the particular type of mouth ulcer. A variety of disorders can cause mouth ulcers, including leukoplakia, gingivostomatitis, canker sores, herpes simplex, oral cancer and oral thrush.

  In terms of how to get rid of mouth ulcers, self-care and medical treatment are easily available to alleviate persisting symptoms. These can also help to prevent further complications from developing, such as oral cancer.

• Types of Mouth Ulcers

  The three types of mouth ulcers are classified as minor ulcers, major ulcers, and herpetiform ulcers. Diagnosis can be based on the respective symptoms, but biopsy and blood tests may be employed by health care providers or dentists so as to confirm or determine the cause.

  Minor ulcers account for around 80 per cent of all mouth ulcer cases. Their size is usually small, with a diameter of 2 to 8 mm. These types of ulcers generally do not result in scars. Minor ulcers often heal by themselves in 10 to 15 days.

  • Major ulcers are deeper and larger, with a diameter of roughly 1 cm or more. Scarring can arise from these ulcers, and these also normally warrant longer healing periods that can last for up to several weeks.

    The third type, herpetiform ulcers, only account for around 5 to 10 percent of mouth ulcer cases. These are characterized by the presence of several tiny sores, with a number that can reach up to around 100. The sores often fuse together, causing extreme pain.

  • How To Get Rid of Mouth Ulcers

    You can alleviate the symptoms of mouth ulcers through medical treatment and self-care. If the cause of the particular type of mouth ulcer is determined, the treatment must be targeted to the cause in order for the ulcer to naturally heal. However, if the mouth ulcer is mild, does not frequently reoccur or does not get in the way of one’s day-to-day routines; the mouth ulcer can heal naturally, and will usually not warrant any formal treatment at all.

    Self-care— Simple self-care measures such as undertaking proper and thorough yet gentle oral hygiene activities can aid in lessening the severity of symptoms. These include using a soft toothbrush and reducing stress levels. It is also important for patients to do away with the intake of foods that intensify the pain caused by mouth ulcers, which include spicy and hard foods.

    Medical treatment— Medication may also be prescribed for symptom alleviation, but there are medicines that can be bought without prescription.

    Rubbed corticosterois, antacids, and other preparations that serve to soothe pain and other symptoms can be directly applied to the affected areas. Patients may also want to use an antimicrobial mouthwash so as to kill bacteria and other micro-organisms that may cause infection. Painkillers may also be prescribed, suchas benzydamine, so as to help patients cope with the pain.

    It is imperative that prior to using medication, individuals with mouth ulcers must consult health care providers regarding the fitting types to purchase and to apply to the affected area. Caution must be exercised, because some medication may not be suitable to certain age groups or people.

Job Application:  How To Make The Right Impression

Written For:  Knoji

Job hunters, keep this in mind: your application is your first contact with the prospective employer. It is your opportunity to create the right impression. The person who will be reading your application will look for competence, confidence, enthusiasm and courtesy. If you keep it clear, relevant, concise and bright, you can increase the chances of a favorable response to your application through careful wording and by setting it out thoughtfully.

The first rule is to always follow the instructions given in the advertisement. Supply all the information and papers requested. Secondly, find out as much as possible about the work involved and also about the company you are applying to.

In most cases, your initial application will consist of two elements: a covering letter, in which you state why you are writing, and a curriculum vitae (also known as a résumé), giving details of your education, training, and relevant work experience. Keep the covering letter short and to the point. You can elaborate more in your résumé.

Remember to sell yourself when applying for a job. Emphasize your strong points: your achievements, abilities, and potential, your interest in and suitability for the job. On the other hand, don’t try to conceal any obvious shortcomings, such as lack of experience or qualifications. Own up to these disadvantages, but counterbalance them by stressing your adaptability and eagerness to learn.

Always type your curriculum vitae. It should look welcoming to the reader. Make it clear and neatly laid out. Importantly, make sure that the spelling, grammar and punctuation are correct. Start off with your work experience. List the jobs you have held and include a brief description of what the job entailed. It may be wise to state the reason why you left your previous jobs, especially if you did not hold them for long. It would be wiser though, not to mention that you have been fired.

Next, give personal details such as your education, degrees, achievements, when and where you were educated. List too any other relevant skills and qualifications like knowledge of other languages and industrial or office skills. As for other personal details, you do not have to mention whether you are married or have children. But do specify your age or date of birth.

For those who are applying for a first job, the employer cannot expect much in the way of work experience – he or she will look for ability, enthusiasm and readiness to learn. So think about any extra-curricular activities or previous part-time work you have engaged in while in school. Potential employers will be more impressed if you have shown initiative.

Useful Tips On How To Get Over A Break Up

Written For:  EzineArticles

When a relationship ends, it usually brings an end to some other things as well - dreams, hopes, aspirations, and friendships. We say goodbye to our dreams of a beautiful beach wedding, or to the hopes of having a happy family someday. We have envisioned our whole life being spent with that special someone, and we got caught up in the world that we have built around that person. When the relationship fails, we automatically start to question ourselves where we went wrong.

Experts have pointed out that there are stages of grieving. Yes, it is okay to grieve. This is a normal reaction to a loss. So cry your heart out, talk to people who care enough to listen, eat a tub of your favorite ice cream, or sleep. Whatever your form of release may be, do it. It is a privilege. It is a right. Grieve, for now. And then move on.

True, some things are easier said than done, and moving on after a terrible breakup tops the list. How can one possibly forget when anything and everything seems to remind her (or him) of that one special person? You go out, hoping to get some form of diversion, and then you see your favorite restaurant, or your usual hang out place, or the coffee shop where you two first met. You turn on the radio to listen to comforting music, and all you hear are songs he (or she) used to play on the piano for you. He (or she) is basically everywhere! So how does one forget?

The sad truth is, there is no forgetting. You only get used to the absence. If you're lucky, you get used to the pain. Everything about the relationship will always be there, planted in your subconscious memory. But you need not sulk forever. You can get over it, and you will. Here are some tips on how to get over a breakup:

• Allow yourself to experience the hurt. There is no use denying the fact that you are hurting. Suppressed and repressed emotions sometimes manifest as psychological problems and you would not want that.

• Allow yourself to heal. Never go into rebound relationships just to get even. Be fair to yourself, and most importantly, be fair to your partner.

• Talk. Spill it out. This may be the perfect chance for you to have a heart-to-heart talk with your mother. Talk to your friends. Do not shut people out of your life. They want to help. Let them.

• Go out and have fun. There is more to life than just locking yourself up in your bedroom. There are a lot of people to meet. As they always say, there are lots of fish in the sea. You just have to make sure your net catches good ones.

• Make yourself look good. Never go out looking like you just jumped out of bed. Make the extra effort to style your hair, put on a fresh set of clothes, spritz on some cologne. You may have had your heart broken, but you do not have to look like one. After all, you just never know who you'll meet.

• When everything cools down, talk to your ex. Clear out some issues and provide closure if that is what you want. This way, nothing, and no one, is left hanging.

The Three Ultimate Danger Signs in Relationships

Written For: Street Articles 

The danger signs in relationships are sometimes not noticeable especially when a person is deeply involved – and in love. While being with someone makes lives more colorful and can make us believe that all things are possible when we are in love, it is best to keep our eyes open because when we least expect it, there are factors that can dampen an otherwise healthy relationship.

The Twins of Doom – some monsters are real, while some are but a figment of hyperactive imaginations. In a relationship, however, there are two specific behemoths that could put a wedge between you and your beloved. One is called the ‘green eyed monster’ otherwise known as jealousy, and the other is possessiveness. Both are equally malevolent. Jealously would lash out on everything it considers a threat (i.e. close friend of the opposite sex, colleague, or even your success), whilst possessiveness will transform someone into a control freak.

Transmission: Lost – communication is vital. It is one of the foundations of a strong relationship. But when you stop to communicate, then something must be really wrong, and it’s not because of the transmitters. So, you’ve been busy with work and your boss or colleague is stressing you out and you can no longer endure another ‘stressor’ (i.e. your partner and his/her equally stressful day). So what do you do? You turn off the mechanism. You can see your partner’s mouth twitching and yapping, but do you don’t exactly hear what he/she is saying, nothing gets through, communication has been barred.

Lack of R-E-S-P-E-C-T – Basically, one partner downgrades or underestimates the other. A woman may question the ability of her man to be successful in his work or endeavors. Comments like, “you sure you can do that?,” or “I don’t think you can handle it” is one way of blowing respect. Another example would be a man saying, “that’s stupid,” “you’re idea sucks,” or “shut up” after his girlfriend, fiancé or wife offered a suggestion.

Danger Signs in Relationships

Your Partner Constantly Checks On You. Jealousy and possessiveness are the makings of a ticking time bomb that could annihilate any relationship into oblivion. Both are all master sneaks that would whisper psychotic imaginative ideations. With both their urgings, your beloved would eventually do some random checks on you, which includes phone calls ‘coyly’ asking what you are doing, who you are with, and where you’ve been.

Your Partner Never Listens. For a relationship to work, both parties need to communicate. How else would you be able to understand each other if you keep tuning out your partner?

Now some of you may say, “My partner wouldn’t understand. So there’s no point in telling.” If you’re partner is willing to listen he/she will understand no matter how mundane or important the issue is. Communication in a relationship goes beyond understanding.

Your Partner Only Has Harsh Words For You. Just like communication, respect is also one of the basic foundations of a strong and long-lasting relationship. Respect means that you value that person greatly.

So, what exactly happens when a relationship lacks respect?

Once you undermine your partner, you are ultimately saying that they are not important. Degrading your partner doesn’t help with their self-esteem and your relationship, either. Why? Because a person being undermined or downgraded would take-on another persona just to protect himself or herself, whilst pleasing you. A woman or man being saddled or silenced is not a pretty picture. Ultimately, the person being undermined would feel burdened, unhappy and would loss one’s self-assurance – and would surely try to escape a relationship that does them wrong rather than good.

Danger signs in relationships can be subtle or glaring, and we should all learn to see them for what they are.