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When a relationship ends, it usually brings an end to some other things as well - dreams, hopes, aspirations, and friendships. We say goodbye to our dreams of a beautiful beach wedding, or to the hopes of having a happy family someday. We have envisioned our whole life being spent with that special someone, and we got caught up in the world that we have built around that person. When the relationship fails, we automatically start to question ourselves where we went wrong.
Experts have pointed out that there are stages of grieving. Yes, it is okay to grieve. This is a normal reaction to a loss. So cry your heart out, talk to people who care enough to listen, eat a tub of your favorite ice cream, or sleep. Whatever your form of release may be, do it. It is a privilege. It is a right. Grieve, for now. And then move on.
True, some things are easier said than done, and moving on after a terrible breakup tops the list. How can one possibly forget when anything and everything seems to remind her (or him) of that one special person? You go out, hoping to get some form of diversion, and then you see your favorite restaurant, or your usual hang out place, or the coffee shop where you two first met. You turn on the radio to listen to comforting music, and all you hear are songs he (or she) used to play on the piano for you. He (or she) is basically everywhere! So how does one forget?
The sad truth is, there is no forgetting. You only get used to the absence. If you're lucky, you get used to the pain. Everything about the relationship will always be there, planted in your subconscious memory. But you need not sulk forever. You can get over it, and you will. Here are some tips on how to get over a breakup:
• Allow yourself to experience the hurt. There is no use denying the fact that you are hurting. Suppressed and repressed emotions sometimes manifest as psychological problems and you would not want that.
• Allow yourself to heal. Never go into rebound relationships just to get even. Be fair to yourself, and most importantly, be fair to your partner.
• Talk. Spill it out. This may be the perfect chance for you to have a heart-to-heart talk with your mother. Talk to your friends. Do not shut people out of your life. They want to help. Let them.
• Go out and have fun. There is more to life than just locking yourself up in your bedroom. There are a lot of people to meet. As they always say, there are lots of fish in the sea. You just have to make sure your net catches good ones.
• Make yourself look good. Never go out looking like you just jumped out of bed. Make the extra effort to style your hair, put on a fresh set of clothes, spritz on some cologne. You may have had your heart broken, but you do not have to look like one. After all, you just never know who you'll meet.
• When everything cools down, talk to your ex. Clear out some issues and provide closure if that is what you want. This way, nothing, and no one, is left hanging.